Day of 10 Planetary Hand
Tone 10 (Planetary): creative power to Perfect Manifestation, action of Producing
Blue Hand Seal (MANIK): Knows and emphasizes Accomplishment (heals)
Dear Potential Lover,
When I became abstinent I literally opened myself to the possibility of never having sex again. That was in me to do. It was a viable possibility at that time. I needed years of space from the way sexual intimacy is done in our society (Western) and by our species in order to gain clarity on it. There is still so much that I do not (and may "never") understand about it (sexual intimacy). But after 2 years of abstinence I realized I am an erotic and sexual person by nature; and that, if done purposefully, sexual intimacy could be beneficial to me and my existence on this Earth.
And only now, after nearly 3 years of abstinence, have I realized how I can engage in sexual intimacy without degrading myself. "Degrading myself" means engaging in a lesser sexual act than is necessary to me and my well being. It speaks to the experience I require. Principally speaking, any other experience would take away from me and my awareness of what I am; which would lessen me and my purposefulness within Existence at this time. This time is what I have and it is my experiential trade and currency.
One of the pillars of my life practice is the understanding that every person is made up of 5 carnal energies: the boy, the girl, the man, the womyn and the elder. Each person relates differently to the presence of these carnal energies within their nature. When it comes to sexual intimacy, energetically it is my womyn that engages most fundamentally. I incarnated within a female body, that is the energy readily available to me; but I have to get to know my womyn energy to engage her and to engage with her.
I wasn't doing that when I was being sexually intimate (3 years ago) and the most fundamental experience I could have receded from me, my awareness and, thereby, my experience. My abstinence has reintroduced me to my womyn energy and she has relayed to me my misuse of her energy. She and I have been in recovery and we require further recovery. The more recovered we become, the greater our awareness of one another has become actualized.
I am learning what my womyn energy requires in order to be integrally present within me. When it comes to sexual intimacy, she has made it clear that we cannot venture into sexual acts that are not sacred.
Sacred is not determined by ceremony or words alone. Sacred is specifically determined by the intention, attention and awareness one gives to a life altering act that involves the alchemy of combining unknown substances. The attention required is nothing short of complete presence to and awareness of what is going on in front of you, around you and with you. What makes a sacred act sacred is the intent of bringing about acts and outcomes with your will exerted outside of you and into other things. This is a most sacred responsibility.